Not Debate, but Conversation!

There are differences and disagreements in every relationship, but when these start taking the form of debate instead of discussion, then the age of the relationship starts decreasing.

Natasha started feeling stressed often. Whenever she talked to her husband Nakul about anything, it would start out normal, but she could not understand when it would turn into an argument.

As a result, Nakul would go to office angry and Natasha would remain stressed throughout the day. Gradually, their relationship started getting strained.

Natasha began to fear that this relationship might break.

Then for some reason, an elderly relative stayed in his house for a few days. Expert eyes understood the seriousness.

He explained it to Natasha, and the result was that Natasha and Nakul’s relationship started filling with new energy.

Is it normal to have arguments and disagreements in any husband-wife relationship? It is not necessary that even the closest friends always agree with each other.

But when this disagreement turns into an argument, bitterness begins to dissolve in the relationship.

Having open discussions about issues or disagreements instead of arguments gives happy results for the longevity of your relationship.

Accept conflict:

Conflict of opinion is natural in any relationship. This is a part of the relationship because it is impossible for two people to agree on everything.

Ideological differences sometimes provide a golden opportunity to develop our understanding.

It depends on how easily you are able to accept disagreements or differences of opinion, or how sensitively you raise a difficult issue.

Discuss like a good listener:

Engage in the conversation like a good listener during the discussion. Listen patiently and understand what the other person says.

It is not necessary to react immediately to everything. Pay attention to the other person’s body language to understand what he or she is feeling.

To ensure that the discussion reaches a natural conclusion, always ask open-ended questions. Involve yourself in the discussion as a collaborator, not a judge.

Do not speak without thinking.

To avoid the situation of ‘Now I regret it, when the bird pecked the field’, do not say anything that you will regret later. Despite disagreements, remember that with your partner, you are always a team.

Relationships are always more important than any one issue. Do not deviate from the topic; during the argument, always remember what your discussion was about.

No accusations:

Instead of blaming or counter-accusing each other, start the argument based on your experience. Also add to the discussion about how an issue made you feel.

Give your partner some time to understand this. Also, try to understand exactly what you want or how do you want your partner to solve the problem?

If the tension increases, stop:

If the argument starts reaching a heated point during the conversation, then take a break for some time. After some time, when both of you are in a better mood, resume the conversation.

Just always keep in mind what problem the discussion is about solving.

Accept Losing in Relationships

Accept losing in relationships. Sometimes even losing intentionally is victory. Also, understand the point of view of the other person, i.e. your life partner.

Instead of trying to win each other over, argue to overcome the problem. Avoid thinking that the other side is wrong. Try to satisfy the ego of others while controlling your own, and together find a solution to the problem.